What Not to Say to a Woman Who Has Miscarried, and How You Can Help

By Erica Kain

After my three miscarriages, several older people have told me they were sorry about my “disappointment.” “What disappointment?” I always want to ask. I’m disappointed when Lost is a rerun; I’m devastated when I lose the chance to bring a child into the world.

But that euphemistic approach to discussing pregnancy loss is at the heart of why so many people have no idea what to say after you’ve had a miscarriage. Even though it’s surprisingly common, no one talks about it. Read More